Valentine’s Day can be a difficult holiday if you’re not in a romantic relationship. It may bring feelings of loneliness, loss or even failure. It makes sense that being single on a day dedicated to celebrating couples can be challenging, but it can help to remember that “love” isn’t just about being in a relationship.
There are opportunities for all of us to celebrate and experience love in our lives. If you’re single and it feels like you’re missing out, here are a few ways you can make Valentine’s Day special, even without a partner:
- Show yourself some love. Valentine’s Day is a great opportunity to indulge in a little self-care. Instead of waiting for a date to treat you, buy yourself flowers and chocolates. If you’re on a budget, you don’t need to spend money! Take a little time out of your day for a relaxing bath or cook your favorite comfort food. Learn more about self-care and why it’s important here.
- Spend time with friends. Spending time with friends is a great way to feel loved and connected – especially if your friends are single, too. If you feel like going out, invite them to a concert or a movie. Or if you’re more of a homebody, spend an evening in playing boardgames or binge-watching a favorite show. It’s hard to feel lonely when you’re spending time with people you cherish. Studies even show that spending time with friends can be good for your mental and physical health!
- Let your loved ones know you care. If you don’t have a sweetie to spoil, do something nice for a family member instead. Whether it’s giving a gift or simply calling to let them know you’re thinking of them, it’s easy to let your family know you appreciate them. If you don’t have family you’re close with, reaching out to others in your support network can also be incredibly meaningful.
- Spend a little extra time with your pet. Whether they have fur, feathers or scales, our animal companions can be an important source of emotional support. Play with your pet, give them a special treat or just spend a little extra time cuddling with them if you’re having a difficult day.
- Volunteer in your community. Instead of dwelling on being single, try to find opportunities to help others. Some places that may need help are food pantries, shelters and hospitals. Serving others can make us feel less alone, and gives our life a sense of meaning and purpose.
- Learn a new skill. If there’s a new hobby you’ve been meaning to pick up, what better time to start than now? Use Valentine’s Day to study a new language, try a new recipe, or take a class. Learning to do something new is an instant confidence boost and a way to connect to others with shared interests in the future.
- Get creative. Drawing, painting, writing, making music and other forms of creative expression are a great way to relax and enjoy yourself. Even if you’ve never made art before, don’t let that stop you. It’s okay to make mistakes – no one has to see the final product but you.
Remember, Valentine’s Day is about love and connection, not just romantic love. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, the most important thing is to celebrate the love you have in your life, whether it’s with family, friends or yourself.